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Written by Jeff Herring, MCT
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Monday, 02 July 2007 |
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Recently I was able to spend a week in Denver, Colorado at the 11th Annual SmartMarriages.com Conference. Smart Marriages is an organization dedicated to improving relationships for both couples and singles.
The event was a who's who of the relationship coaching and education world, and I had the privilege of interviewing many of the presenters and exhibitors. You can hear many of them in the coming weeks on my Relationship Radio Show at www.RadioSandySprings.com.
I asked each relationship expert for their No. 1 tip for singles and their No. 1 tip for couples.
Today's column will focus on the No. 1 tips for singles, and next week we'll continue with the No. 1 tips for couples.
NO. 1 TIPS FOR SINGLES
David Steele is the author of "Conscious Dating — Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World" and the founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute. David's No. 1 tip for singles is "to be the chooser."
Being the chooser means you have done the work on yourself to know your requirements, needs and wants in a relationship and therefore know who is not right for you and who is right for you. Then you can choose the right one for you.
Nili Sachs is the author of "Booby Trapped — How to Feel Normal in a Breast-Obsessed World." Nili says her most important tip for singles is to take care of yourself and know yourself well, because you are the gift that you are going to give to that special someone one day.
The husband and wife team of Joe and Michelle Williams are the authors of "Yes, Your Marriage Can Be Saved — 12 Truths for Rescuing Your Relationship." Joe told me that his most important tip for singles is to build their faith and put God first. Focusing on God and your faith allows you to become the right person instead of always being focused on the finding the right person.
Scott Haltzman is the author of "The Secrets of Happily Married Men." Scott's No. 1 tip for singles is to listen to the other person. According to Scott, when you listen to the heart of the other person you can grow closer and know if this person is the right one for you.
Susan Heitler is the author of "The Power of Two — Secrets to a Strong & Loving Marriage." Susan's has a great tip for singles in search of a partner — "Marriage is for grownups, and so you have to learn how to dance the `win-win waltz' in a relationship."
The husband and wife team of Tom and Beverly Rodgers are the authors of "The Singlehood Phenomenon" and have this tip to offer singles — "Never, ever give up hope because your soul mate is out there."
One last tip before we wrap this one up. Our last tip comes from another husband and wife team, Jesse and Melva Thomas Johnson. The Johnson's are the authors of "Mining for Gold in Your Relationships." Melva's tip hits home for all singles — "instead of focusing on finding the right person, your job is to focus on becoming the right person." (You can catch my interview with Melva this Thursday July 5th on www.RadioSandySprings.com at 5 pm Eastern time.)
Well there you have it folks, the No. 1 tip for singles from 7 of the best relationship experts out there. We'll pick this up next week with the No. 1 tips for couples.
For more tips and tools for singles and couples you can visit www.SecretsofGreatRelationships.com by relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.
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