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Written by Jon and Jennifer
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Wednesday, 26 April 2006 |
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Q. I am the proud single mother of a two-year-old. OK, so he’s a little nutso sometimes. But I think it’s driving my dates away. I don’t have lots of money to spend on baby sitters, so how do I keep men in my life without ignoring my special little one?
—Mother of Todd in Fort Collins
JENNIFER: It’s all about priorities, and it sounds like you have yours in line. You already know that your son is an important factor in all aspects of your life, so now the challenge is finding a guy who knows and respects that too. The best advice I can give you in finding that guy is to be up-front about your son from the very beginning. The type of guy that you and your son deserve will accept your family with open arms.
JON: Never settle, never quit, never give up. If someone doesn’t stick around because you have a kid, then it was a good thing and better off for your son. Think of it this way, you will always have one man in your life. You have to think of yourself as a package. You two are like shish kabobs and a hot summer day: you don’t split them up so you can have the sweet feeling of just one. Hang in there, keep looking for the right man, not the man for right now.
Q. I am dating a woman who is younger than I am. The problem is, I have three teenage sons from a previous marriage, and I think the oldest is hitting on her. What should I do?
—Big Daddy in Loveland
JENNIFER: The good news: You are one of those lucky men that got to take a trip to male fantasy land, and I certainly hope it helped you with your mid-life crisis. The bad news: You have a one-way ticket home and you better not miss your flight!
You need to set your own desires aside and think about what you are doing to your sons, especially your oldest. You can’t blame him for hitting on a women who, in all reality, he should be dating! It can’t be a good thing to confuse him at such a young age, and remember that all three of your boys are constantly looking to you as their role model, especially when it comes to interacting with women. Take one for the team, dad, and make your boys your number one priority.
JON: I don’t think your son is mature enough for your relationship. Or, your girlfriend is also hitting on your son. If so, here’s a quarter, call someone who... I do care. But seriously, it’s too bad Jerry Springer is off the air. He would know just what to say. I’m speechless with the fact that your girlfriend is about the same age as your teenage son. Good luck with that drama.
The only training our NEXTnc relationship advisors have is house training; they’re not certified counselors. They just have time on their hands. If you have a question, e-mail:
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